We all find ourselves overwhelmed at times. We struggle to find a healthy balance between doing what needs to be done and being happy. To be happy, we first need to be happy with ourselves. Sometimes, we have to keep calm and be what we love. In the words of Marianne Williamson, “Everything we do is infused with the energy with which we do it. If we’re frantic, life will be frantic. If we’re peaceful, life will be peaceful.” Thus, if we get perturbed by the chaos around us and act accordingly, we will be caught in a vicious circle of misery.
Life is like the surface of the ocean: it has crests and troughs. Every day, within each moment, there is the potential for it to be a crest or a trough. Most of us live life in that thin layer of relativity, that surface of the ocean, where our entire experience is based upon the outcomes of the ebb and flow of life’s randomness. This is why we are so subjected to the ups and downs, those peaks and troughs, and get thrown about by the constant change and unexpected events that keep popping up. How do we live in a state of calm and consistency when there is so much chaos and inconsistency in life? Just one word: transcendence. What is transcendence? It’s the process of piercing that surface layer of relativity in meditation, and diving beyond the randomness of life. There exist deeper layers of awareness for us to dive into that take us beyond the realm of subject and object relativity.
Here are six ways to find calm right now.
It is no wonder that yoga and meditation have become so popular. Deep, focused breathing helps promote relaxation and reduces anxiety. Whenever you find yourself tensing up, take some long, deep breaths and see how much better you feel. Deep breathing is something you can do at any time of the day. It can also be beneficial to spend an hour a day doing yoga or meditating, whether in an organized class or at home. With even just a few deep breaths you can lower your blood pressure and relieve muscle tension. It sounds so simple, but it is so effective! If you can, go outside. The clean and fresh air will fill your nostrils and you will feel calm and rejuvenated.
Listen to some upbeat music.
A good tune will always lift your spirits, no matter how low you are feeling right now. Music is so powerful. Our emotions are very connected to music, hence why listening to something you enjoy can bring down your stress levels. So when life gets too much for you, pull out your headphones and put on your favorite music. If you can, dance to it too! Sway to the beats and feel the tension leave your body. You will feel serene.
Breathe in a good scent.
Aromatherapy is a great way to relieve stress. Certain aromas have a soothing, calming effect. A few stress-relieving scents include lavender, citrus, sandalwood, and lemongrass. So next time you are feeling a bit anxious, light up a nice, natural candle or some incense and breathe in the tranquilizing goodness. Or, lie down in freshly laundered sheets scented with a calming natural fragrance like lavender, or fill a vase with fresh cut blooms. Calming your senses will help you relax and think clearly.
Pour your heart out.
Often times stress can build up. We may try to do things to stay positive on a regular basis, but sometimes an accumulation of stress gets to an overwhelming point. When a storm of negativity comes crashing down on you, one of the best ways to cope with everything you have going on is to talk about it. People need each other. Human interaction is so important and being able to open up to someone about whatever is going on is key to staying sane and healthy. So the next time you feel like something is making you feel low and you cant fight it off, pour your heart out to a loved one. It could be your friend or a family member, just anybody who you trust. And if this is not an option because a matter is too personal, write it down. Vent out everything on paper. You will feel at ease once you do this.
Do something that makes you happy.
Sometimes, getting your body moving is one of the best ways to free your mind. Go on a run, take a dance class, go for a swim, or just get out and do something active. It doesn’t matter what you are doing, by working your body, you’ll give your mind a much-deserved break. Or if you really want to stay indoors, you can relax yourself by taking a long bath. There is nothing like soaking yourself in a nice, steamy tub to ease the tension. Getting clean makes you feel fresh and brand new. Read a good book while you’re at it.
Lastly, don’t forget to smile.
Life is stressful and unfair at times, but you can always find something to smile about. No matter who you are or what you are going through, if you can find something to be happy about every day, your life will be all the better for it. Realize that everybody goes through ups and downs. You may be at a down right now, but with time, you will pick back up. Try to appreciate the simple, beautiful moments in life. Smile and know that in the end, everything is going to be alright.