I once read somewhere that a home is not a dwelling place; it is a feeling. A home is not a confinement of space of air and brick and walls that hold, that shelter. A home is not four walls, rooms, doors or windows. It is not even just family. A home is not the things that exist within it. But most importantly, a home is not a dwelling place; it is a feeling. And it must feel your own, like your happy place. A place that you can always go back to and replenish your soul. A place where you hold memories, joy, and slices of time that you will never forget. And for this to happen, there must always be present harmony at home. The home should be devoid of negativity.
How to maintain a harmonious environment at home?
Number one, be compassionate. Understanding is the mightiest quality to have. Lace your heart with compassion, love, and warmth for everyone and everything at your home and be kind. A little kindness goes a long way. And returns to you multifold.
Laugh freely. Adults tend to suppress their laughter and always wonder if they are showing too much emotion. Let that feeling go. Laugh as much as you want, as loud as you want. It releases oxytocin and leaves you high and happy.
Hug more. When was the last time you hugged your parents and told them you love them? We all tend to ignore these little gestures and underestimate their importance. But you may not realize how much it means to the people around us. How valued they feel when you express love. Life is too short to waste a single moment making our loved ones feel neglected. So hug more!
Take your meals together. A family that eats together stays together, right? It is the most effective rule that ensures the family spends time together and catches up with each other. Don’t let this time be interrupted by calls or messages or the television. Just enjoy the food and each other’s company.
Forgive quickly. Quarrels tend to erupt frequently when a number of people share their living space. But the key to harmony at home is to forgive quickly and let go of the grudges. Because as much as you may fight amongst each other, your family is your team! It’s your safe haven and your family members will always protect you and look out for you. So forgive them and laugh over each other’s silliness.
Declutter. Cleaning out the clutter has a psychological impact. It not just makes the house look clean, but also makes you feel calmer. Follow the six-month rule and give away items that you have not used in the last six months. Keep your home well ventilated, open and spacious.
Give each other space. Living together does not mean that you have to intrude. Maintain healthy space with each other and avoid imposing yourself on anyone. This is key to maintaining a long-lasting bond.
May you have peace at home!