What is the meaning of love? Everyone has their own definition of what they would describe as love.
Love. It’s complicated. It’s beautiful and magical. It can feel like you are walking on air. But it can also be a fight. It can also feel like a mountain climb. And when it’s real? It’s extremely hard.
Here are a few lines that tell us what is love and what is not.
Love is listening to your partner when things get tough, and sticking around when life gets a little too much. Love is not putting the needs of someone else before your own with zero regards for your mental well-being.
Love is respecting your partner whether they are around or not. Defending them and what they stand for. Love is not a synonym for pain. What you feel is not love if it upsets you more than it makes you happy.
Love is telling your partner when you think they are wrong and telling them the truth about how they have made you feel. Communicating with each other your needs and respecting boundaries. Love should heal you and not hurt you.
Love is laughing together and having fun. Being silly and able to act completely as yourself. The right kind of love will make you strive to become the best version of yourself. It won’t degrade you. It will only lift you up.
Love is about the little things. Making a cup of tea in the morning, cooking food after a night out, a nice massage after a long day, let your partner pick the film, asking if you are okay. The small things will always outdo the material things. Love is not blind. It is seeing the flaws and imperfections in someone and deciding that you want to spend the rest of your life with them anyway.
Love is being loyal and faithful. Not hiding messages and secrets. Not talking to other people behind their back over social media or in person. Always being honest and telling the truth.
Love is not a romance novel. It’s not a Nicholas Sparks fairy tale. It’s not just about finding them good-looking or being able to get along with them. Because at the end of the day, they will eventually get on your last nerve, abs will soften and hair will grey. His or her looks will eventually fade. True love is getting past that point.
Love is doing things and attending places for your partner, even if you don’t really want to be there. Supporting them when they need it and compromising on plans.
Love is accepting everything about them, even their flaws. accepting their past, their dreams and their demons. But love is not settling for someone who treats you less than you deserve. You are beautiful. You are amazing. And one day someone will eventually love you for who you are. “You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139:4) And you deserve someone who will give you the same kind of love you truly deserve.
Love is looking past someone’s outerwear. It’s opening up the dark and grey parts. Love is peeling them down layer by layer, and loving each and every part. Love is accepting them wholeheartedly, with their past, no matter how many mistakes they made. And keeping an open heart to the fact that they can still make mistakes.
Love is supporting them and feel excited for them when they succeed. Being happy for them when good things happen and having empathy for when the bad things happen.
Love is listening even when you don’t want to. It may sometimes be a conversation that sometimes leads to fights and arguments. But love is still kissing them goodnight. And love is still adoring them, despite really disliking them all at once.
Love is telling them that you love them, and actually showing it as well.
Love is learning to agree and disagree together. Love is accepting each other’s different opinions even if it is something you absolutely do not want to believe in and feel like yelling at your partner.
Love is being there no matter what happens. Love is trusting your partner and knowing they love you and will support you in everything. Love is smiling when you think about them and messaging them just to see how their day is going. Love is taking care of each other when you are sick, and always being kind.
Love is forgiveness and acceptance, moving forward after an argument and taking into consideration your partner’s feelings and well-being. Not being selfish and nurturing your partner when they are in pain.
Most importantly, true love is about loving yourself the way you are and accepting yourself. The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself first and foremost, so before being involved with anyone else, make sure you love yourself enough to let others love you too.
It’s about acceptance. It’s about forgiveness. It’s never about wanting to always be right. It’s never about them always being wrong. Love is about never keeping grudges or playing blame games.
Love is breathing together and apart. It’s lying next to one another at night, sharing your ordinary day, and it’s also about having your own friends and hobbies and days. Love is being so, so lovely together, but it’s also about being just as beautiful apart.
Love is never going to be easy when it’s big and real and true. But it is so going to be worth it!