“Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful – you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.” -Daniell Koepke
Toxicity presents itself in many forms; some of the worst expressions of it come from individuals who appear shiny and nice on the outside. This can be an illusion—things aren’t always as they appear, and neither are people.
Here are the four types of toxic people and how to deal with them.
Victims. The victims never accept responsibility. They are great at pointing their fingers at others and never accepting that they have made a mistake. What chain reaction they cause can be damaging to your success. Such people should be rejected without any regrets. They only use you.
Parasites. Picture this- You haven’t seen each other for ages, and you don’t know any details of the life of this friend. This person never has time for you if you suggest meeting up. But suddenly there he or she is: with no money to pay the rent, no place to stay, and so on. Such people are only in your life to suck you dry and feed off of you. Being used can be helpful sometimes, but not with the parasitic. Their intentions are only for their self-interest. Such people have to be avoided at all cost.
Gossip mongers. These types of people are insecure and use their tongue to twist facts and misrepresent information. They want to be known and accepted and doing so may just be the only way they can get the attention they want. Even when you try to solve the problems they have caused, the only way you can truly solve the issue is to kick them out of your life, because they can be malignant.
The jealous ones. It seems as if these people appreciate your problematic times more than your periods of triumph. They believe they deserve your moment of success and not you. Although you may try to make them your supporters and fans by letting them know they are a part of your success, such people only prefer to resent you for your humility and level-headedness. This type should be shunned at all cost.
Toxic people should be cut off from your life sans any regrets. You can love them from a distance, but associating with them will only bring you stress. So simplify your life by staying away from them.